Do you ever stop & think about the pressure we put on others to meet our needs? What about the pressure we put on ourselves to possess things that we think will meet our needs & make us happy?
Whether it’s in our personal relationships – does the perfect gift makes us feel loved?
In our professional lives – does a promotion or job title make us feel important or worthy?
In our homes – does more “stuff” or more expensive “stuff” make us feel safe, secure, or complete?
Today I have insight about identifying & meeting our needs. Are we looking in the right places? Who do you expect to meet your needs?
Today let’s consider that it is our job to identify our needs, and then determine a balanced way of getting those needs met.
We ultimately expect our Higher Power and the Universe, not one particular person, to be our source. It is unreasonable to expect anyone to be able or willing to meet our every request. We are responsible for asking for what we want and need.
It’s the other person’s responsibility to freely choose whether or not to respond to our request. If we try to coerce or force another to be there for us, that’s controlling.
There’s a difference between asking and demanding. We want love that is freely given.
The issue of expectations goes back to knowing that we are responsible for identifying our needs, believing [those needs] deserve to get met, and discovering an appropriate, satisfactory way to do that in our lives.
Today, let’s strive for reasonable expectations about getting our needs met in relationships!
~~Chaplain Roger Ward