Musings

Musings about things that affect our everyday lives and the world around us.

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    Why is listening an important skill to cultivate?

    In daily life, how often do you find yourself talking? How often are you telling a story, talking about your life, giving a long winded answer to a question, lecturing (i.e. injecting your opinion)? How often do you find yourself listening? Really listening… to yourself, to others, to your surroundings, to your Higher Power? Without formulating thoughts or responses or “zoning out”? I don’t know 1 person who doesn’t have to work to be an active listener, we all struggle.  Continuing to work on it is most important. We all have so much to say, so much to tell – a lifetime’s worth of things.  So why is listening an important…

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    The Best Is Yet To Come – Expect Good Things

    Good morning. Today, let’s wait, and expect good things—for ourselves and our loved ones. When we wonder what is coming, let’s tell ourselves the best is coming, the very best life and love have to offer, the best our Higher Power and His universe have to send. Then, let’s open our hands to receive it. Claim it, and it is ours. Today, let’s see the best in our minds; envision what it will look like, what it will feel like. Let’s focus, until we can see it clearly. Let our whole being, body and soul, enter into and hold onto the image for a moment. Then, let it go, and…

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    Choose to Have a Good Day

    Top of the morning dear friends. Today, let’s consider that good feelings can become a habitual part of our lives. There is absolutely no virtue in the unnecessary suffering many of us have felt for much of our life. We don’t have to allow others to make us miserable, and we don’t have to make ourselves miserable. A good day does not have to be the “calm before the storm.” That’s an old way of thinking we learned in dysfunctional systems. In recovery and healing, a good day or a good feeling doesn’t mean we’re in denial. We don’t have to wreck our good times by obsessively searching for or…

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    Believe in Yourself

    Self doubt is nothing less than sabotage. Others will always have doubt & criticism, both constructive & not. To unnecessarily doubt ourselves just holds us back, closes us off to opportunities & the possibilities for our lives.  For years I doubted my own abilities; in the corporate IT world, “they said” I couldn’t succeed as programmer in a male dominated industry.  I believed the people who said that, yet I did succeed. “If you want to move up you’ve got to get into analysis & leave coding alone”. Except I like to write code. Then it was “you’ll never be a project manager, that’s where the real money is.” But I…

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    It’s Better to Give Than to Receive

      Good morning.  I hope that you and yours are enjoying the Holiday Season! During this time, let’s consider that everyone wants to be loved. Our common human characteristic is our need to matter in someone else’s life. At least one other person needs us, we tell ourselves, when we feel least able to accept life’s demands. How alike we all are. The paradox is that our own need for love is lessened when we bestow it on others. Give it away and it returns. A promise, one we can trust. The reality about love and its path from sender to receiver and back again is often distant from our minds.…

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    The Power in Letting Go

      Good morning dear friends. Let’s consider that sometimes, the picture isn’t finished yet. We may have many ideas, possibilities, hopes, and dreams floating around, like asteroids orbiting a planet. We may think events in our lives are happening aimlessly, without purpose. All we see are disconnected, floating blobs. We reach for them, try to grab them in our hands so we can connect them, force them into a whole, force them into a picture we can see, or into something that makes sense.   Today, let’s allow the pieces to be. Let ourselves be. Sometimes, chaos needs to precede order. The pieces will come together in a picture that…

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    Trust What We Know To Be True

    On this day, let’s trust what we know. Not what we think we know, but what we know in our hearts. We often know the truth long before we let ourselves see and believe it, long before we’re ready to acknowledge it. For many reasons – fear, timing, and a myriad of issues too long to list – we ignore and discount what we know in our hearts. But the truth doesn’t go away. What’s true, what we know to be true, will nag at us and haunt us. And even if we try to run from that truth, our experiences will ultimately lead us back to it.   Life…

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    An Open Letter To The Conscious

    ** Disclaimer:  The post you are about to read is my opinion alone and is intended to spark discussion.  If you are not outraged by the eerie similarities between recent events between law enforcement and minorities across the country and pre-civil rights race relations, this post is not for you.  If you go along to get along, this post is not for you.  If you are looking for a rant, this post is not for you.  ** I have kids.  My oldest is 22 and he is 1 of my greatest accomplishment so far.  When he was in high school he would describe himself very simply as “an athlete & a scholar”.  And he is…

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    Inspiration From The Aloha State

    We went to Kauai and all we got was: 1. Coco Salmon Actually the inspiration & challenge of trying to recreate the dish from Bangkok Happy Bowl.  It’s “cooked in spicy red curry sauce with steamed baby spinach & Thai basil”.  I’ll give it a try 1 day when I’m feeling ambitious and have all the ingredients to make the curry sauce from scratch. 2.  Elixir We call it infused water, they call it Elixir.  I think I prefer Elixir.  In Hawaii, I only saw this made with pineapple or with lemons.  There was nothing else added but water & ice and it was the most refreshing water I’d ever…

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    Speaking Up For Mental Health

    Mental Health.  It is a topic near and dear to my heart, and my mind.  Last year I joined NAMI and (my family and) I went full steam ahead into support mode – assembling a walk team for NAMIWalks, raising funds, getting the word out.  I even participated in Sharing Hope, a program that “reaches out to African-American communities to encourage mental health education and reduce stigma on mental illness.” NAMIWalks Greater Houston is this Saturday 4/30/2016. Unfortunately, I was unable to get a team and walk this year.  But with a VERY fortunate reason – my oldest son’s University graduation!  My team will not be there to walk but I will…